Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Louder than Words

The question I was faced with now is, how do you know when someone loves you. This will be a little tricky and hard to answer, but here goes.
Women may not be as complex as men to answer this. Women are more emotional,so we will show you we love you. Women dont have a problem with showing or telling you their feelings. Once a woman lets you in, you'll know.
With men, sometimes it can be hard to explain. Men are not as emotional as women (not most men) so they tend to release their hurt or pain differently. In most cases, if a man has been hurt badly by a woman, they tend to take longer to TELL you they love you. Men arent built like women, they get over or deal with hurt and pain differently. Some men tend to show you by actions first before saying it. Such as, introducing you to their friends, then family, the time they spend with you, the way they concern themselves with what may be going on with you. I cant really answer why men tend to be this way but I have seen this before in different men (male friends). What I do know is these men feel that it is ok to show you before they tell you. Some men feel a woman may be rushing or tryin to force them to say it before they are really ready. All of this pertains to real men not players!!
As a woman, of coarse we want to hear those 3 words but I do believe, at times, Actions do speak louder then words. I think you will know deep down inside, trust your gut instinct. Your instinct can pretty much tell you if you believe that he loves you. Like the way he tells you things upfront and you dont have to find out about it, its out of respect. The way he communicates with you, he takes the time to listen, not only yell and fuss. He wants to spend time with you because he wants to not out of obligation or because he doesnt want to hear your mouth later. The way he touches you with caress because he cares. Us women were built differently and we can pick up on nurture, we have a gut instint that men cant explain because they dont have it. Sometimes I prefer for you to show me better then you can tell me because actions DO speak louder then words. Dont worry or rush it. It will be said eventually but he may be showing you now.

Wednesday, November 6, 2013


There comes a time when you will care for someone deeply. Maybe even, you caring for them more then they care for you. In the end, always make good judgements by using your brain and not your Emotions. No matter how much you care for a person don't make decisions based on the emotions. Think very carefully. If there comes a time where you are faced with having to make a decision and your emotions are involved, take a step back and think things through thoroughly. If you are at this place in a relationship, there are things that has happened or flags that went up, so sit back and think clearly. If you felt sometimes communication wasn't right or there was no communication, think about why. If there were times that you felt the feelings weren't mutual, think about why. If you noticed the touching isn't the same, think about why. If those words "I Love you" are not repeated anymore, think about why. All things happen for a reason, and those things are shown to us at any given time or a course of time. You have to be able to think clearly and make sound decisions, that are not based off of an Emotion, especially in relationship. If things are getting bad and you're questioning yourself "why is this happening" or "what should I do" sit back and think clearly. Did you treat the other person the way you wanted to be treated? Was that treatment given in return? Where you giving your all into the relationship? Was the other person giving their all back? Are you trying to keep the passion going? Is the other person trying to keep the passion going also? If any question you ask yourself is coming back one sided, then you need to think things through clearly. When relationships become lengthy, some people stay out of fear, security, comfort or loneliness. You shouldn't make a decision that impacts your life based on any emotion. Not from fear, not from sadness, not from anger, not from loneliness or any other emotion. If the relationship is worth saving, both parties have to be willing to communicate openly and honestly. Some things that may be said may not be what you want to hear, but its always best to hear the truth..... No matter how much it may hurt. Its better to heal from the Truth instead of dissolving in an infectious lie. Communication is key to any success.

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

How I Love

Sometimes saying I love you, leaves the other person just knowing that they are loved.The question is, do you know how I love you.    I love you completely and wholeheartedly. I love you with every fiber of my being. Our existence as living as One is my goal. I love you enough to put God at the head of our relationship to let Him guide us down a path to Forever. Letting no weapon form against us or allowing no person to put asunder. I love you enough to know, you are the Head of our household and submission is not a problem. I love you enough to accept the decisions you make and trust your ability of being honest. I was created to be that type of Woman for you.    I love you enough to extend my heart to a blended family which reaches children that I did not birth. I love the Man you've become and the Man you will be. I love you enough to dwell on the good and the positive. I will not think of the things that can, will or might go wrong, because things will always happen. But I love you enough to concentrate on Us making it past those hurdles. I love you enough to Pray for our well being, for us to live a long prosperous life.    I love you enough to not allow halfhearted love, anger or resentment to build. To always communicate so we can understand and respect each others opinions. To not allow the possibility of Us not making it or not working out, to exist. To not be afraid of working harder to make things better. To not allow Us to become comfortable and forget about the other. To make sure We remember to keep the fire going and work at keeping it spicy.       I love you enough to know all these things take work and can not transform over night. I love you enough to know with time things get better. I love Us enough to understand, respect and honor "I Do." This is how I Love.

Tuesday, July 9, 2013


After taking care of everything you need to take care of, at times you just want somebody there that you can completely rely on. When others are always looking to you to be reliable for them, who can you turn to when you need that reliability. You find yourself helping family and friends, being there for others when they need it and even helping out in a financial way to some. But when things break down, don't go right or needing that talk to help guide you, whose there for you. When you need or wish you had just one person that you can rely on in your time of need, who do you turn to. You want to be able to rely on your Mate the way others rely on you. Having that person who is willing to listen and communicate to you when you need it, is needed. You can't always be the strong reliable person ALL the time. At times you need to let go and rely on your Mate. You need to be vulnerable, let your guard down and allow or let your Mate be reliable to you. Sometimes it can be hard to do, especially when you have been the strong reliable person for so many people for so long. But when the time comes,you will want to have just that One person that you can rely on and one day, I will rely on Him.