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There comes a time when you will care for someone deeply. Maybe even, you caring for them more then they care for you. In the end, always make good judgements by using your brain and not your Emotions. No matter how much you care for a person don't make decisions based on the emotions. Think very carefully. If there comes a time where you are faced with having to make a decision and your emotions are involved, take a step back and think things through thoroughly. If you are at this place in a relationship, there are things that has happened or flags that went up, so sit back and think clearly. If you felt sometimes communication wasn't right or there was no communication, think about why. If there were times that you felt the feelings weren't mutual, think about why. If you noticed the touching isn't the same, think about why. If those words "I Love you" are not repeated anymore, think about why. All things happen for a reason, and those things are shown to us at any given time or a course of time. You have to be able to think clearly and make sound decisions, that are not based off of an Emotion, especially in relationship. If things are getting bad and you're questioning yourself "why is this happening" or "what should I do" sit back and think clearly. Did you treat the other person the way you wanted to be treated? Was that treatment given in return? Where you giving your all into the relationship? Was the other person giving their all back? Are you trying to keep the passion going? Is the other person trying to keep the passion going also? If any question you ask yourself is coming back one sided, then you need to think things through clearly. When relationships become lengthy, some people stay out of fear, security, comfort or loneliness. You shouldn't make a decision that impacts your life based on any emotion. Not from fear, not from sadness, not from anger, not from loneliness or any other emotion. If the relationship is worth saving, both parties have to be willing to communicate openly and honestly. Some things that may be said may not be what you want to hear, but its always best to hear the truth..... No matter how much it may hurt. Its better to heal from the Truth instead of dissolving in an infectious lie. Communication is key to any success.

How I Love

Sometimes saying I love you, leaves the other person just knowing that they are loved.The question is, do you know how I love you.    I love you completely and wholeheartedly. I love you with every fiber of my being. Our existence as living as One is my goal. I love you enough to put God at the head of our relationship to let Him guide us down a path to Forever. Letting no weapon form against us or allowing no person to put asunder. I love you enough to know, you are the Head of our household and submission is not a problem. I love you enough to accept the decisions you make and trust your ability of being honest. I was created to be that type of Woman for you.    I love you enough to extend my heart to a blended family which reaches children that I did not birth. I love the Man you've become and the Man you will be. I love you enough to dwell on the good and the positive. I will not think of the things that can, will or might go wrong, because things will always happen. But I love you enough to concentrate on Us making it past those hurdles. I love you enough to Pray for our well being, for us to live a long prosperous life.    I love you enough to not allow halfhearted love, anger or resentment to build. To always communicate so we can understand and respect each others opinions. To not allow the possibility of Us not making it or not working out, to exist. To not be afraid of working harder to make things better. To not allow Us to become comfortable and forget about the other. To make sure We remember to keep the fire going and work at keeping it spicy.       I love you enough to know all these things take work and can not transform over night. I love you enough to know with time things get better. I love Us enough to understand, respect and honor "I Do." This is how I Love.

A Settled Plan

At times in life, we find ourselves settling with certain things. This particular thing I will speak on is relationships. You get use to the person your are with until you find it harder to walk away. Security makes it harder to walk away, loneliness makes it harder to walk away and comfort makes it harder to walk away.

You get used to your surroundings and you might want to keep it that way. Your used to the mortgage or rent being paid, the lights, gas or whatever expense you don't have to worry about. Do you really want to have to cover the expenses you don't want to, or what you're not use to paying? Maybe you want to continue shopping with that part of the money for yourself.

You get used to that other body sleeping or laying next to you. You don't want to have that spot be empty. You might feel that you cant sleep comfortably thru the night. The time that you have nothing to do, you always have that person there. To watch movies, to go to the theatre, go out to eat, or to do whatever.

You know that person knows all your flaws. Every single last one of them. You are comfortable with that person seeing you as you really are. Your stomach might not be as perfect as you would like it to be. Your legs might not be as toned, you biceps or triceps might not be as big as you like. No matter what it is, you are comfortable with only that person looking at you completely, and feeling comfortable.

If you truly want to be happy you cant settle. I know it may seem scary to leave all those commodities but if you want real happiness, you might have to. Take the time to get to know you. Stop splurging on the finances, save some money so you can prepare to handle your bills on your own. On those lonely days,call a friend or a best friend. Try to keep busy with anything. Reading, biking, walking, take up a new hobby but don't over load on to one friend. You don't want to drive them crazy.

Sometimes when we settle, we begin to lose our self. Like, you settled so much that at times you cant tell when you're lying (not being truthful with yourself) or if you really don't like something. You've settled for so long, you cant really tell. But one of the biggest reason we settle is because of our children. Don't settle for that reason either. Children can fell and pick up on tension, uneasiness and sorrow. Even little children can pick up on it. Communicate with the children, let them know how you feel. Be honest with them and create a dialogue. You might be surprised to hear them say, they want to see you happy. Make a plan to be happy and stop settling.